How to Introduce Your Sexual Desires and Fetishes into Your Sex Life: 6 Great Tips
The fear of the unknown is a common experience, whether at work, in business, in school, or in our sex life. It can be so crippling; it holds us back from achieving as much as we should. The fear of rejection, criticism or even disappointment that our expectations are not met keeps us from trying new things.
A staggering number of people have never experienced real mental orgasms because they have never tried out their sexual desires and fetishes. Instead, they stick to conventionally accepted sexual practices, denying themselves of one of life’s most meaningful pleasures.
Sexual fetishes can be about a body part, an item, or an action that turns an individual on. There is a wide range of fetishes, probably as many as humans! Fetishes don’t necessarily have to be over the top. It can be about something typically considered everyday items or actions. What makes it a fetish is the effect it has on the person.
Some sexual desires are more commonplace than others. This post will address common sexual desires and fetishes and how to introduce them in your sex life.
1. The Foot Fetish
It is a relatively common fetish, perhaps the most common of the bodily parts fetish. It is more widespread amongst men. Also referred to as podophilia, it extends beyond the feet to include legs, thighs, shoes, stockings, and all feet-related items.
A person can have a foot fetish but not a leg or stocking fetish, while others have all the fetishes in the podophilia spectrum.
A person with podophilia gets sexually aroused by any of the abovementioned items.
Introducing your fetishes into your sex life should delicately bear your sexual partner’s sensitivity in mind. A foot fetish can be introduced gradually over time by giving foot massages, pedicures, or buying your partner those items that turn you on. Let them get comfortable with the idea to avoid rejection from the shock value of just dropping the idea on them.
2. The Colour Fetish
A Colour fetish is another common one. Some people have a strong sexual reaction to specific colors. A color popularly ascribed to such fetishes is red. Wearing the color in any form by a person gets them in the mood. Usually, people with a color fetish ask their partners to wear the color for them.
3. The Underwear Fetish
Underwears are everyday items. However, some people have an intense attraction to specific items. It could be a thong, lingerie, or bra. For some people, the item is a fetish. Some others combine a color and underwear fetish. One such example is the red thong fetish. A red thong on a partner is all it takes to get some men on cloud nine.
Another form of underwear fetish is sniffing. Some men have a strong sexual reaction to sniffing a woman’s panties.
The foot, underwear, and color fetishes are some that are easier to introduce to your partners and incorporate into your sex lives. On the other end of the spectrum are others that are not so mundane and can pose a challenge in your sex life. These desires are more rancorous and kinkier. Some of them include;
4. Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
Voyeurism is the desire to watch others have sex or engage in sexually related activities. Some people derive immense pleasure from watching others. Exhibitionism, on the other hand, is the desire for others to watch you perform sexually related activities.
To fully enjoy these desires and express them might require visiting erotic parties, having group sex, or introducing others into your sex life.
5. Erotic Humiliation
A desire not often discussed is the need to be humiliated by a sexual partner before arousal. Psychologists say it might be related to specific childhood experiences.
6. Stranger Play
Hooking up with strangers is a sexual highlight for some people. They have a desire to have sex with strangers. They get off meeting and having sex with new people.
An example is those who have fantasies of having virtual sex with girls on live cam. The unfamiliarity with the girl is what gets them off, and they derive sexual satisfaction from it.
Sexual desires and fetishes like voyeurism and exhibitionism, erotic humiliation, and stranger play can be challenging to introduce into your sex life. Getting a partner who is not only accepting of these fetishes but into them as well can be an arduous task.
Online sex sites have made it a lot easier to express even the supposedly most perverted sexual desires. There are girls on live cam available to have virtual sex with you. And not only that, but there is someone to fulfil your innermost sexual desires and fetishes.