Sexual Submission: All About Dom/Sub Relations (And What It Really Means to Be a Submissive)
As we continue to explore sexually and discover more of ourselves suppressed within, the realization of sexual possibilities is mind-blowing. The end goal of sexual satisfaction and multiple rapturous orgasms can be arrived at through multiple link roads.
One of the roads less traveled is BDSM- bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. Frequently suppressed, the desire to dominate in sex or willingly submit to a sexual partner is more common than we think. The secrecy culture around BDSM makes it rather tricky for newbies to explore.
This post takes you on a spirited ride in the world of a submissive. A submissive, dominant, or generally just curious? This post is for you.
Who Is a Submissive?
Contrary to the general idea of who fits the profile of a submissive – A submissive isn’t necessarily a docile, gentle, or agreeable person in real life. They aren’t a doormat either. It is not unusual to see assertive, decisive, and authoritative people in their regular daily lives being subs. In the presence of their partners, they take on a quiet and pliable demeanor striving to please.
Submission isn’t necessarily a reflection of a person’s personality.
A submissive is a person who derives sexual satisfaction from serving a dominant. They willingly relinquish control and put great effort into satisfying their dominant partner. They are people who genuinely desire to be used. As such, they comply with and obey their partner’s wishes. It is, however, not a license for abuse.
The feelings and needs of the submissive are essential and should be considered by the Dom. The sub, however, doesn’t exert them or bring them to the fore in sexual relations.
Submission is all the different ways a sub expresses their sexual preference – willing obedience and compliance. There is a myriad of ways through which submission is practiced. The sub constantly strives to please their partner; this desire sometimes extends even beyond the walls of a bedroom.
The Dom/sub living can be pretty exciting though fraught with challenges. Some ways
through which BDSM is explored are:
The sub can take on one of several subservient roles. Commonly played roles are pets, enslaved people, masochists, secretaries, little brats, property, and a maid; the list is endless, and there is always room to get creative. Role-playing ideally is fun, and the Dom/sub dynamics take it a notch higher.
The sub can be put on a leash or wear a collar in the pet role. They obey commands from the Dom and rely on them. As a part of the masochist role, sometimes discipline is necessary: the sub is willing to accept discipline and reprimand from the Dom. The discipline can involve whips, bondage, or begging the Dom for certain things.
The sub completely embodies the servitude persona. They anticipate the needs and wishes of the Dom and work on them. It is a physically, emotionally, and sexually demanding role to take on.
Both partners agree as to what either party is comfortable with.
Dom/sub Relations Aren’t Limited to the Bedroom
Things like wearing a barely visible collar in public, the Dom commanding the sub to dress a particular way, taking permission to go out or eat, and using titles outside of the bed are ways by which sexual anticipation is built and can be a form of foreplay.
Beyond the excitement and seeming glamour of BDSM, there are challenges for the Dom and sub in a world that considers it taboo. One of the difficulties subs experience is getting into and staying in character with their partners. This is particularly challenging for people with a busy daily schedule and those with an authoritarian character outside their sexual life. It can be challenging to anticipate and strive to please a partner when you are pressed for time.
A way to surmount this challenge is to make a lifestyle out of obedience to and pleasing your partner outside the bedroom.
For people with a naturally domineering character accepting the part of them that wants to submit completely can be pretty difficult. There is the lingering fear of losing themselves to their partners. A gradual acceptance, starting small, and taking little leaps at a time can help them attain sexual satisfaction.
A frequent challenge Doms report is acceptance. Sometimes perceived as abusers or manipulators, getting a partner who accepts their lifestyle and is willing to submit can be challenging.
A common issue with both Doms and subs is social loneliness. Finding someone with similar sexual preferences can be an arduous task. However, it is less so with the advent of online sex chat and dating platforms.
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